Find out the past with a past Life Session, Its Breathtaking

September 17th, 2008 by Administrator

Past life regression, also known as PLR, might often unearth the reasons why we have issues with work colleagues in our current lifetime or why we are concerned of certain things. You have fellow workers around you in your current lifetime that you would have extraordinarily met before, just imagine being able to find out what happened and what your relationship was to them at that past time and remove blocks that plague you in your current time and even identify talents and bring them into your current lifetime. Past lifetime regression, aka PLR, is unbelievable.

When you are having a past life regression, also known as PLR, session you will regress to the life you will most need to know about in your present lifetime. This is wonderful and might often explain an amazing deal about your current life and help you should to go forward with your life with a greater understanding of yourself, your life and the fellow workers around you. Discover Past Life Regression with Anne Jirsch.

You can also identify why you are the person that you are, now that is marvellous. If you delight in nature maybe you were once a farmer, if you savour to travel perhaps you were a traveller. Instead of minimising our strengths we embrace each of them.

Each respective experience is superb and unique. Others have went to places they had lived in before and knew where to go.

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Upgrading your office furniture

August 26th, 2008 by Administrator

When looking at upgrading your office furniture, an area of great importance is the reception area. The quality, and theme of your reception chairs and reception counter will reflect that the impression that your customers have on your company, it is the fist point of contact and allows them there first thoughts on how your company operates. In your office, you’ll want to make sure that guests and clients are as comfortable as they can be while they wait to b e seen by your staff. Reception chairs are popular reception areas in the office as well, as schools, colleges, doctors surgeries and even churches use them. A good recepetion area is a definite asset for your company, as with the correct furniture, and colour scheme they will provide a friendly atmosphere and leave a long lasting impression on your clients. By using these office chairs in your office, guests will relax, and be in the correct frame of mind to do business with your company. Using reception tables in the waiting area, ensure to leave magazines, and company information, to allow them to get to know what your company statemnet is about.Also remember that the member of staff who will work at the reception requires an office chair that offer adjustable options for the height, depth of the backrest,and even the arm rests. The average reception chair is has to be very durable, due to the time the receptionist sits at the reception. If using a standard office desk for your reception unit, look at a desk mounted office screens, to allow the receptionist more privacy, and also a barrier to signify that the client does not look at items on the desk area.

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How To Be Smart With Gambling Scams

May 17th, 2008 by Administrator

With the advent of technological advancements, people can find
ways on how to do things differently. The problem is that some
of these things do more harm than good.

One of the greatest problems brought about by technology these
days are the scams. This is because with high-tech gadgets, most
scammers can easily identify the information that they need so
as to get hold of a person’s bank account, credit card, etc.

One great example of scams is those that are used in gambling.
These fraudulent activities are so prevalent in gambling,
especially online-gambling because a lot of people want to earn
money. They are so hooked up with earning money that they tend
to neglect areas that needs careful analysis.

People who fall easily as prey are those who are vulnerable to
ads that states about easy money, sure win, or higher chances of
winning.

However, there are still ways to deal with these problems. The
bottom line is to identify which gambling activity is fraudulent
or not.

Here’s how:

1. People should learn to assess things whenever somebody is
pushy about a certain thing. Chances are, if they are so pushy,
they want to get what they want whatever the case may be. It’s
like giving their victim a “now or never” ultimatum.

If a certain gambling activity claims it can’t wait until the
next day, chances are, that activity is a scam.

2. Surveys show that when a certain gambling activity is
offering lots of money in a short span of time for just a small
fee, there is a higher probability that it is a scam.

The bottom line is that, if it looks and sounds too good to be
true, chances are it is a scam.

3. If certain rules and regulations are too vague to be
understood, chances are, it may be a scam. This is because
scammers will usually not lay down all the facts. They have
hidden agenda or costs that will reap more money once they get
their victim on the hook.

4. A gambling deal that would offer something for nothing is
definitely a scam. In most cases, people get something without
giving in return…at first. What’s more, they even give people
a money-back guarantee, which may sound so enticing but all the
more it is just like that, an enticement.

So, for people who fall to these kinds of situations, it would
be better to be wary next time around. As they say, a person
will never know what a scam is unless he knows how to spot one.

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O porque da Fidelidade

May 14th, 2008 by Administrator

Sempre ouo muita coisa sobre justificativas de no ser fiel, a
mais fuleira, é que é isso mesmo, os homens so assim. No é
verdade.

A fidelidade faz parte de uma caracterstica humana, uma
necessidade de evoluo de todos ns. Sem isso, deixamos de ser
o que realmente somos, humanos e civilizados.

A Evoluo Durante milhes de anos, o macho sempre foi o
responsvel em passar para frente o seu cdigo genético e a
fmea em selecionar o macho certo, com base em muitas
caractersticas que ela achar importante.

Deus dotou o macho da produo praticamente ilimitada de gametas
e dotou a mulher, da capacidade de produzir o vulo e gerar um
ser semelhante, com a soma das caractersticas dos casal.

O macho que tivesse melhores caractersticas, sempre seria o que
teria o seu cdigo genético preservado fecundando mais fmas.

A crte Cada espécie tem a sua forma de selecionar os
melhores machos. So diversas caractersticas utilizadas pelas
fmeas para selecionar seus machos. So brigas de morte,
caractersticas fsicas, barulho, presentes etc.

Somente os melhores seriam selecionados e com isso, poderiam
fecundar mais fmeas. Cada espécie tem a sua forma de
agrupamento, que se definem de um casal a um harém.

Os homens, também seguiram o formato de harém, tudo isso foi
aceito e ainda o é em algumas sociedades, mas tudo tem uma
justificativa. Populao baixa, poucos recursos para obteno de
alimento etc.

Com o tempo, a populao aumentou e a necessidade de manter
haréns, deixou de ser o correto e necessrio, ou até, as
tragédias fizeram os homens tiveram que pensar em outra forma.

A corte moderna, se prepara com base nas posses, roupas,
presentes e até no poder sobre os outros.

Civilizao Ser civilizado quer dizer que vivemos em um
grupo de pessoas, que seguem um mesmo conjunto de regras.
Algumas regras so somente protocolos sociais definidos pelo
convvio, pela religio ou ainda pela sociedade.

Sem essas regras, no poderamos nos chamar de civilizados,
porque reinaria somente o caos, como foram durante muito tempo.

As sociedades, precisavam de regras para que pudessem crescer e
principalmente manter os poderosos cada vez mais poderosos e o
povo sonhando.

Mas a discusso aqui no é ser civilizado ou no.

No desejar a mulher do prximo Um dos motivos da
fidelidade, est no fato que ninguém queria ou quer que a sua
mulher (fmea), gere filhos (carregue cdigo genético), de outro
homem (macho).

Ento, foi definido que seria pecado desejar a mulher do
prximo, visando simplesmente, que outros desejassem a sua
prpria.

O vcio Quando somos jovens, nossos hormnios fluem nas
nossas veias, fazendo com que o nosso lado animal seja mais
intenso. Como no conhecemos nosso corpo, nos deixamos levar
pelas novas sensaes, muitas vezes que no interpretamos
corretamente.

Uns mais, outros menos, cada um de ns, somos reféns de nossos
hormnios, que sem eles deixaramos de funcionar corretamente.
Deixaramos de viver.

Algumas pessoas, se deixam levar pela urgncia do sexo, para
aplacar a vontade ou a falta que certos hormnios nos fazem.

So muitas formas de vcio pelos hormnios, que vem da falta ou
o excesso de adrenalina e entre tantos outros.

Um pouco mais da evoluo Nos ltimos 10 mil anos, a
nossa raa tem evoludo ao ponto de chegarmos a lua,
computadores e até explorar outros astros.

Nossas leis so complexas e simples em comparao com outras
mais antigas.

Nossas cidades, parecem verdadeiros organismos vivos.

So peas de teatro, filmes, livros e muitas coisas criadas nos
ltimos 100 anos.

Mas apesar de tudo isso, no deixamos de continuar reféns de
nossos hormnios.

O apelo ao sexo Desde que o homem é homem, a reproduo
tem sido o principal motivo da existncia.

Nascemos j pensando que em algum dia vamos ter um ninho, um par
e ter muitos filhos. Parece que no nosso cdigo genético, est
impresso o grito pela perpetuao da nossa espécie. um grito
maior de todos, que as vezes esquecemos de tudo e todos.

As empresas utilizam o sexo, como apelo para vendas. No é de
hoje que se faz isso, basta observar as estampas e marcas do
passado. Quase tudo tem apelos sexuais, que vo das taas de
vinho, até algum mvel para sua casa.

So homens e mulheres se apresentando de forma sexualmente
apetitosos perante a todos. So mulheres com lbios carnudos,
olhar de mame eu quero dar, corpo de deusa. Homens que lembram
muito as esttuas de deuses gregos, somente o apelo ao sexo.

O Intelecto Onde que fica a nossa opo de escolha? Onde
que devemos mostrar que realmente somos evoludos? Penso, que a
verdadeira definio da evoluo, é o intelecto, com ele, o
homem poder ultrapassar seus limites e controlar o seu corpo e
no somente ser o seu refém.

Somente com o intelecto que poderemos de fato, chegar onde
queremos e no somente ser guiado pela sanha sexual, pegando a
primeira que parecer, esquecendo que existe algo muito maior e
melhor.

O Amor O amor, é a parte da evoluo, que procurou manter
viva a nossa espécie, sem ele, a criana, que nasce totalmente
indefesa e o é, até chegar a idade adulta, precisa da proteo e
treinamento dos pais para que possa sobreviver. A inveno do
amor, foi a verdadeira salvao da nossa espécie e com isso, a
coisa mais gostosa de se viver.

Amar é mais que somente atender o apelo da natureza. Muito mais
que somente viver para se reproduzir.

Precisamos unir o intelecto e as caractersticas sociais, ao
amor e vive-lo como ele deve. Com MUITO carinho, respeito e
principalmente com a entrega um ao outro, porque somente assim
nos sentiremos completos.

O prazer Atender a nossas necessidades animais nos d
realmente MUITO prazer. Precisamos e gostamos de fazer amor, é
algo que ruge dentro de ns, mas mesmo o prazer pode ser
controlado, quando no estamos com a pessoa que juramos a nossa
fidelidade.

No devemos nos deixar levar pelo nosso apelo animal. Precisamos
ser honestos conosco e no somente com algum fantasma hormonal
que grita dentro de ns.

A palavra Quando estamos com alguém, ns voluntariamente,
damos a nossa palavra e muitas vezes, até oferecemos a nossa
total fidelidade.

Para um ser humano, a palavra deveria valer mais que qualquer
outra coisa, principalmente quando se d a mulher que dizemos
amar.

Muitas pessoas esquecem, que deram a sua palavra de fidelidade,
até perante a Deus e os homens, mas mesmo assim ela no tem
valor.

Para mim, um homem sem palavra, vale menos que uma pedra de
carvo em uma churrasqueira acessa, logo ser somente cinza, sem
valor.

Obs: E também no acredito no papo que foi somente para
conquistar aquele ou aquela mulher.

Ser Fiel Ento, a fidelidade, nada mais é que mais um
passo na nossa evoluo. Somente um casal que poder construir
um lar e uma famlia. Com isso, poderemos atender as 2 partes
que nos far completos, que é: - Perpetuar a espécie - Alimentar
o intelecto

Acredito nisso, que precisamos ser muito mais humanos que
somente animais, que saem caando fmeas na possibilidade de
fecund-las, que nos dias de hoje, no acontece. A maioria das
mulheres e até os homens, esto preocupados nas suas vidas
evitando ter a responsabilidade de criar filhos.

A fidelidade, é o que ainda mantém a nossa sociedade coesa, é a
base da nossa civilizao.

Sem a fidelidade, no haver a famlia e com isso, no haver
mais o respeito e somente o caos reinar.

Precisamos ter o cuidado com o uso de nossa palavra, e deixar de
lado aquela estria que os fins justificam os meios.

Ento, somos e devemos ser fieis, por uma necessidade maior que
a nossa existncia, a existncia da nossa civilizao.

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Ten ways to Become Best Friends with Your Teenagers

May 4th, 2008 by Administrator

Best friends! It may seem impossible to believe, but today’s
teens do want to consider their parents as friends, even though
they think we could never understand the realities of their
world. They are also interested in what it was like being a
teenager during the Stone Age. Life without cell phones or the
Internet must have been unimaginable!

So even with this interest, can parents and teens really become
best friends when competing with busy schedules, and raging
hormones? The answer is a resounding YES…and it is worth the
effort!

What is important to understand is that both of you have to want
the new relationship on a long-term basis. You cannot appear to
be going through the motions, or acting like you are fitting
this new relationship into your busy schedules.

As a father, I knew I was a good provider. I put food on the
table, a roof over my teen’s head, and helped fund those great
sales that saved me so much money.

As important as the father role is, it was improving the “Dad”
role that allowed me to develop a lasting relationship with my
daughter. This also helped me with my two stepsons. Essentially,
I modified the communication and problem-solving skills that I
successfully used at work to improve my relationship with my
teens.

The following are the ten ways that will help you to become one
of your teenager’s best friends:

1. Define what trust meant to each of you. Agree that there will
be no games or hidden agendasjust honestyto build the trust.

2. Agree that mutual trust is earned by exhibiting consistent
behavior. The amount of trust that you develop will be
proportionate to the amount of freedom that they will enjoy.

3. Anything that is discussed with you must be kept in the
strictest of confidence. This will help reinforce the trust.

4. Talk to them as adults while remembering that they are still
kids. This allows for flexibility during those trying adolescent
years.

5. Become an attentive listener. Multitasking may be necessary
at work, however it will make you appear distracted when
discussing something important with your teenager. Learn to
focus.

6. Ask the right questions without appearing to interrogate
them. It is important that they not fear coming to you to
discuss what is important to them. It is equally important that
they feel that you will take the time to understand what they
are trying to communicate.

7. Do not judge them for their actions or ever say, “I told you
so! This helps in having them continue to come to you to discuss
topics, and encourages them to do things better the next time.

8. When helping them with problem solving, discuss the desired
outcomes first, and what they need to do to resolve their
problem. Then allow them to proactively make their own decisions
based upon the facts rather than reacting to their emotions.

9. Set guidelines instead of making rules for them to follow.
They should have input into the guidelines, and then be expected
to follow them. They will perceive this as fair and in their
best interests.

10. “Hang out” together as oppose to just spending time
together. Remember that there is a difference between motion and
productivity, so make your time together interactive. For
example, if you go to a movie, then go for an ice cream and
discuss the movie. Or play some “one on one” games or sports. Do
what best friends do!

If you want to be a better parent, don’t forget the child within
you. All too often, we get so wrapped up in being an adult that
we forget how to have fun and enjoy life. I found that by using
my imagination, I rekindled my creativity, and this made me an
“okay guy” for my teenagers to hang out with.

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Valentine Moments With Your Children

April 28th, 2008 by Administrator

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Title -Valentine Moments With Your Children Author - Margaret
Paul, Ph.D. E-mail- mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright-
© 2004 by Margaret Paul Web Address -http://www.innerbonding.com
Word Count: 812 Category: Parenting

VALENTINE MOMENTS WITH YOUR CHILDREN By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

One of the things I loved doing as a child was making very fancy
and creative valentines for my parents. I would spend hours
designing and building wonderful cards with little poems in
them. The only problem was that, while my mother would receive
her card graciously, she never received it with her heart. She
would smile and tell me how lovely it was, but I never felt her
love coming back to me. My mother did not know how to open her
heart, how to smile at me with love and cherishing in her eyes.
My father would never even notice his card.

I wanted to connect with my parents, to share love with them, to
know their hearts, but their hearts were hidden. Sadly, my
mother died last year at the age of 85 without ever being able
to truly share her heart with me. My father is 91 and his heart
has always been closed.

Your children need to feel your heart and soul. They need you to
take the time to stop what you are doing and just be with them.
They need you to really see them - to see who they are beneath
their outward ways of being.

One of the greatest gifts we can give to our children is to see
their essence, their true Self, their individual expression of
Spirit within them. When children are deeply seen and valued by
their parents, they learn to see and value themselves. All
children need this profound mirroring from their parents to feel
intrinsically lovable and worthy.

The problem is that we cannot see the souls of our children and
embrace their intrinsic worth unless we see our own intrinsic
worth. If you suffer from core shame - if you feel intrinsically
unworthy, unlovable, not good enough, unimportant, or inadequate
- then you cannot energetically communicate to your children
their inherent worth. Your own feelings of unworthiness will be
projected upon them, no matter how loving you try to be with
them. You can let them know in many ways how wonderful they are,
but when they energetically pick up your core shame, they will
either integrate that shame into their own beings, or move into
the opposite direction, believing that they are superior to you,
which can cause entitlement issues.

In order to love and cherish your children in the way they need
to be loved and cherished, you need to love and cherish
yourself. The greatest gift you can give your children this
Valentine’s Day and every day is to embrace a daily process of
healing your own core shame, a process such as Inner Bonding.
(For a free Inner Bonding course, see www.innerbonding.com).

Core shame comes from two different sources:

If you were shamed as a child for who you are, you may have
absorbed these false beliefs about yourself and continue to act
as if they are true.

If you were not loved in the way you needed to be loved, you
might have decided at a young age that it was your fault that
you were not being loved - that you were flawed, inadequate,
unworthy, and so on. Core shame is often connected with a need
to have control over getting love, so a child may decide, “If
it’s my fault that I’m not being loved because there is
something wrong with me, then there is something I can do about
it. I can try to become the “right” way and then people will
love me.” Sometimes we stay attached to the belief in our core
shame to maintain the illusion that we can actually control how
others feel about us and treat us.

If you commit to a daily Inner Bonding process of loving
yourself and letting go of trying to get love from others, you
will find that your core shame gradually resolves. Core shame
resolves when we let go of believing that we cause others to
feel and behave the way they do. As you heal your core shame,
you can love your children from your true Self, your own
individual expression of Spirit within. When your children
experience your love for them from your true Self rather than
from your wounded self that carries your core shame, they will
feel your heart and know that they are truly lovable and worthy
of being loved.

As Valentine’s Day approaches - this day of sharing love - why
not commit to learning to love yourself so that you can deeply
share love with your children? There is nothing more profound
than the sharing of love that comes from an open heart. Your
children need and deserve to have this sacred experience with
you. Because children often project their experience of their
parents onto God, their ability to stay spiritually connected as
adults is greatly facilitated by your own heart connection with
them.

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A look at men, women and marriage; can it work ?

April 27th, 2008 by Administrator

A look at men, woman and marriage
Can it work ??

Over the past several weeks I’ve observed a disturbing trend concerning the friends that I’ve accrued over the years as well as the acquaintances I’ve made at work. My observation is thus; none of them are happily married or happy in their current relationship. This also includes friends that have either broken up and/or divorced. I’ve listened intently during our lunchtime wrap sessions, and confess to taking my turn ranting about things I’m not too happy about in my current living situation. To the readers who are female, let me confess freely; I am far, far from perfect and don’t envision myself sitting high upon the mountaintops looking down upon the unwashed. My poop stinks just like everybody else’s. I’m merely observing a trend and a pattern that’s occurred in the dataset available to me. Also, I can say with a fair sense of confidence that the other halves of these relationships are just as miserable.

I offered up a hypothesis at one male bonding session that seemed to get flamed rather quickly. Could we be part of the problem? Have we changed somehow in our behavior or our attitudes concerning our relationships, whether they be marriage or steady partner? It was a unanimous vote; we, as the male species were not at fault. We don’t understand the fairer sex and we never will, and at this current point in time have no further desire to understand what makes our spouse/girlfriend tick. Well, I have some bad news for my male friends. As a data analyst I’m always curious, I wanted to know the reason behind this observed war of X’s and Y’s. I needed the other side of the equation. I hit a goldmine getting my morning coffee today. A woman that I am very close with at work broke off her engagement over the weekend. She confided this to me in between tears. I took “Lisa” back up to my office, closed the door and told her to let it out. To my amazement she did. Damn!! I got an earful in between the sobbing and nose blowing. Now I’m not faulting Lisa for her tears, a breakup of this sort is emotional and tragic, I was just stunned that she decided to let fly like she did. And I was glad to be there with her to lend a supporting ear

Lisa and I talked for about a half an hour and I gave her the best advice that my Middle Aged wisdom could impart on someone in their early twenties. But, I heard what Lisa said and analyzed the main foci of her complaints. Here it is; HE STOPPED CARING! Okay three words, but what do they mean, really? How much detail can be ascribed to these three simple words? Plenty if you listened to Lisa.

1. He stopped telling me he loved me.
2. He stopped surprising me with flowers
3. Sex became more about him getting off than being close to me. (There was more here, but this is a PG-13 column)
4. He seemed to want to spend more times with his friends then with me.
5. We stopped talking and he seemed to lose interest in our wedding.
6. He kept looking at internet porn and then expected me to be receptive to his advances. (Yup, this one grossed me out too)

I admit to capitalizing on this unique opportunity to delve into the female psyche a bit and began asking some questions in very gory detail. To my delight, Lisa was straightforward and often direct in her responses. For every gripe and complaint we as guys had about woman, they had an equal, just as valid gripe about us!! The nerve of them!! <> we, as guys, are perfect, just ask us. : ) : ).

I won’t get into all of it here, but woman are just as unhappy with us as we are with them. How does the bloom fall off the rose? Something had to go right at one time because we hook up, marry, have kids etc. So somewhere along the line some of us are getting it right. My parents were married for over 30 years, my grandparents nearly fifty years, it can work. Why are so many finding it so difficult to keep a relationship going? Let me take the guy’s responses since I’m guilty of a lot of these things and then defend myself and my gender.

1. He stopped telling me he loved me. As did she, after awhile I figured she just accepted that as fact and we both moved on.

2. He stopped surprising me with flowers. She stopped surprising me with teddies and lingerie long before the roses stopped coming. However, a few roses here and there are always a good thing and may eventually lead to a nightie or teddy surprise.

3. Sex became about him…… I honestly don’t have an answer for this, I’ve always wanted to both give and receive, I admit there have been times when I’ve been more interested being on the receiving end, but I’ve always made sure my partner went to sleep with a smile on her face. As I said earlier there is a big difference between making LOVE and having SEX. LOVE cannot be a selfish act, SEX, however can be. Therein lies the problem. HE wanted SEX and SHE wanted LOVE. That’s a problem that needs to be addressed. (Although in Lisa’s case not anymore)

4. More time with friends; I used to be guilty of that and I truly regret it. But I found that I had more in common with my friends than my wife after 17 years of marriage. I could talk to my friends more freely than I could communicate with my wife without fear of reprisal. Women seem to want communication but seldom like what we have to say. When we had discussions it was usually what she wanted to talk about and why she was right. After awhile it seemed safer just to not talk about anything relevant. This is an affliction that affects most couples after a fixed period of time. I remember when I could talk to my wife during the newly wed stage up to about two to three years into our relationship. Now discussions seem to be short and shallow. Anything deeper than that results in an argument sixty percent of the time. This is something that I/we as a couple need to work on and improve.

A good marriage is able to balance his AND her time with their friends. Finding the right balance is a tightrope each potential couple needs to discover together. Hopefully years will not diminish the desire to spend time together rather than be with friends only. If this is already occurring before the wedding the marriage is already doomed

5. Interest in the wedding. I’m sorry, I’m sure his mind was on the honeymoon. Still, A groom should be expected to express some interest in the wedding, but to be honest, the wedding is really for the bride. Ask any guy, and he’ll say he didn’t get too involved in the wedding planning. It was the bride, the bridesmaids and the brides’ mother and future mother in law. This is really not a guy thing. I looked at reception halls and cakes etc, but my wife and her friends were more involved in the planning stages than me. I booked and planned and paid for the Honeymoon though. Is that being stereotypical??

6. He kept looking at internet porn and then expected me to be receptive to his advances. I have no defense for this. I can’t even try to build a defense for this one. Lisa shouldn’t be receptive to his lust brought about through porn viewing. Hand him a jar of Vaseline and a towel and wish him a good one. Two words; NO CLASS.

Well, as I said, I don’t have all of the answers. I however was able to glean some insight from Lisa into how woman want things and compare and contrast that to how men want as view things. I’ve looked it all over and gave myself a migraine. How do things get so far apart? Why don’t we as mature men and woman recognize the warning signs and sit down as a couple and work through them without the emotional baggage or the accusatory tone of you’re wrong and I’m right. Upon careful examination of all the data, I’ve come to realize that it’s a miracle anybody stays married. Hell, I still don’t know how I’ve lasted 17 years. There are still more times than not that I’ve felt like packing it in and still may do so one day or I may be asked to hit the road by my wife, who knows? I know my wife has issues with me that frustrate her to no end. Our relationship is far from perfect and we have issues that neither of us is willing to give on, it’s these issues that may one day break us up. But for now I still walk that tightrope day by day until I either decide that I want to get off or get pushed off.

If I could offer advice to my young married friends and those who are in relationships and those who are simply newlyweds of any age. Why is it that the strongest Oak Tree will break under the wrath of the storm yet the fragile willow perseveres the wrath of nature? The answer is simple; the mighty Oak is firm and rigid, unbending before the storm, while the fragile willow is pliable and flexible enough to bend with the oncoming wind. In the end it is the flexible Willow tree that survives the storm while the rigid, unbending oak is felled and broken. This is the best analogy from the Tao that I can apply to relationships; be like the willow bending upon strife; in flexibility there is longevity.

Take it for what it’s worth, from a man struggling to figure it all out just like everybody else.

-Nuff said. (I need some Excedrin Migraine. This figuring out the sexes has given me a headache.)

-Esper of The Round Table

About the Author

Greg Ballan is a published Science Fiction Novelest and blogger. He can be reached art Sparhawk76@msn.com

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WHEN SAFE IS NOT THE BEST

April 13th, 2008 by Administrator

“Why not go out on a limb? That’s where the fruit is.”

(Mark Twain)

Safe is a word that many people use every single day. Safe is also a place where everyone wants to be. We are then secure and nothing will hurt us. The truth is that while nothing will hurt us, we are hurting ourselves.

Going out on a limb as Mark Twain so aptly put it can be stressful. There may be dangers lurking in the corners and we might stumble and fall. Yes, these possibilities do exist. It does not mean that they are inevitable and guaranteed to happen.

If we stand still, we give way to turning into stone. Apathy takes over our lives and we find ourselves in a self-imposed prison with bars of failure. Not trying constitutes never knowing if you could. If you are a writer and you don’t put your ideas down on paper, you will never experience the thrill of having people take your words and make them a part of their lives. If you are a mechanic, not going out on a limb will never give you the feeling of accomplishment in knowing that you solved the problem, you found the source, and you helped someone. All jobs and careers involve the possibility of advancement, increased knowledge, and the ability to reach out and make a difference in the lives of other people.

The fruit at the end of that limb may be a new friendship, the learning of a new skill or technique, and even the wonderful warm feeling of having done a good day’s work for a day’s pay. When you serve that order in a fast-food restaurant, even if your efforts are not readily appreciated, you know that this person was treated in a very pleasant and helpful way. You did what you could do, and hopefully, they will go on to do something nice to someone else. You started the chain reaction or you kept it going. Either way you did not stand still, you did not stagnate, and you made a difference.

Your words, your actions, and your attitude will be evident to everyone around you. There is always the possibility that someone you think is out of hearing distance or is just not paying any attention does take note of you. Don’t risk the chance that they just may need to hear a person that takes life and makes the most of it. This hope of knowing that one person out there is not going to let the world get them down may just be the push they need to keep on trying, and not quitting.

As an author, when you tell your story or relate your feelings, or even report on an event, it’s the way you present what you are writing and in essence, it is sharing yourself with others.

Whether you do write, or paint, or work in a factory, you are what the world will see today. Go out on the limb. Don’t let a single day go by that you don’t give your world all the strength you can muster, and the ability to know that you are reaching for that fruit at the end of your limb. Maybe, and you may never really know, you helped someone start climbing their own tree and even reach that prize that at first seemed so far out of reach.
Believe in yourself, reach out for new heights, and give only the best example of what a person can do with the life they are given. You will reach people, you will touch hearts, and you may just be the one person that makes a difference to another between closing that prison door of self-imposed failure or opening a window and breathing in the fresh air.

Whatever you do in life is never self-contained. Every action is like a pebble that is thrown in the water. The ripples grow larger and larger. Your actions or attempts at living the best life you can will have that same effect in the world. If you don’t throw in your stone, then that ripple may not reach the one person where only you can make a difference. Don’t let this tragedy happen. Give of yourself to whatever you undertake so that others may grow. Your own harvest will just be that much sweeter.

©Arleen M. Kaptur 2002 May

Arleen Kaptur has written numerous articles, e-books, and the novel: SEARCHING FOR AUSTIN JAMES
Websites:
http://www.arleenssite.com
http://www.Arleens-RusticLiving.com
http://www.rusticliving.com
http://www.webspawner.com/users/rusticliving
http://www.topica.com/lists/simpleliving

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How To Make Cooling Neck Ties

April 7th, 2008 by Administrator

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Have you ever used a cooling necktie? If you have I bet two
things surprised you. How they helped you keep cool and how much
they cost. About $8 each. Ouch!

This article shows you how to make your own, for just a few
cents.

Supplies you will need:

1 yd cotton fabric that is at least 42″ wide and a maximum of
45″. This will make 8 ties Wash the fabric before use.

Water absorbing polymers these are available at hardware’s for
gardening or you can purchase them at Watersorb
http://www.watersorb.com If ordering from Watersorb, order the
medium granules.

A tape measure.

Sewing machine.

Scissors.

1. Cut or tear strips 4 1/2″ wide by the fabric width eg. 45″.
2. Fold fabric in half, right sides together, on the long edge
sew the long seam.

3. Turn over and iron.

4.Mark the centre and stitch along it. Now you have a tube about
2″ wide and 42″ - 45″ long.

5. Drop in 1/8 tsp of crystals on each side of the seam. You can
roll up a piece of paper to use as a funnel to make it easier.

IMPORTANT: At first only make a test tie with the brand of
polymers you’re using to make sure its the correct amount after
it’s soaked.

6. Mark 4 1/2″ from the centre and seam again.

Now you have 2 pockets with crystals.

7. Add another 1/8 tsp of in both sides and seam 4 1/2 inches
from the first set of seams again. You will now have 4 pockets.
Hopefully!! 8. Fold in raw edges and sew across to finish. If
you prefer you can make the ends diagonal.

Care instructions:

* Place in cold water approx 30 min, until crystals become gel.

* Tie around head or neck. Tie will be more effective if placed
in the refrigerator before use or soaked in ice cold water.

* Regenerate by soaking 1-3 minutes.

* Do not freeze

* Dehydrate to store

* Hand wash only with a mild soap

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Autograph Collecting: More Questions and Answers

April 4th, 2008 by Administrator

Autograph collecting terminology and common sense are vital for
the hobbyist in order to make informed purchase decisions.

Question: What advantages does autograph collecting offer as
compared to other collectibles?

Answer: Autographs have been called “frozen moments in time.”
Autograph collectors are curators of history. The most personal
item that one person can give is his or her signature. Anything
that can be signed can be considered collectible…letters,
documents, photographs, books, memorabilia, etc. Few objects
give a collector the opportunity to own a unique or
one-of-a-kind item that is actually part of someone who is known
by millions of people. That is the main reason why autograph
collecting has become one of the fastest growing hobbies in
recent years.

Question: What guidelines should I consider when purchasing
autographs?

Answer: Buy autographs that capture your interest. Don’t
purchase items presented as “investments” or sold through
pressure. Learn as much as possible the language of autograph
collecting. The more you study, the easier it will be for you to
determine what items are authentic and which items to purchase.
Use common sense when buying a signed piece. If the price is too
good to be true, it probably is. Purchasing from reputable
dealers, who will help you avoid risks and problems, is
paramount. Most dealers offer a certificate of authenticity,
which is only as good as the reputation of the dealer. If the
dealer cannot tell you when and where the item was signed or how
it was obtained, go elsewhere.

Question: I see many pre-printed autographed photos on eBay.
What are these and is there any value?

Answer: These are facsimile reproductions of actual signed
photos. With today’s technology, sellers can easily copy an
authentic item with great detail and sell at a drastically
reduced price. Novice collectors or those on a limited budget
are usually the target of these sellers. Unfortunately, many
buyers are unaware that the item is a copy because of the vague
description. We recommend that collectors avoid these
pre-printed photos and be extremely careful when purchasing
autographs online.

Question: What is a COA? Must I have a COA with an autograph I
purchase?

Answer: COA is an abbreviation for “certificate of
authenticity”. Many collectors require a COA before they
purchase an autograph. Frankly, a COA is just a piece of paper
that is only as good as the confidence of the buyer and the
reputation of the seller. Always make sure you are purchasing
from a person who knows how and where the signature was obtained
and will guarantee the item to your satisfaction.

These are just a few of the questions we receive from autograph
collectors. If you have a question, feel free to contact us.

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